Lessons from Difficult Relationships

 

It is easy to say we should distance ourselves from people we dislike, but when avoidance is impossible, the situation can feel almost tragic. Yet, even such relationships offer valuable lessons. Rather than being superficial, we can sometimes ease tension by considering the other person’s position—as well as the perspectives of those who support them—and by facing them without outright denial but with a broader, higher outlook. Because difficult people stand out so clearly, they challenge us to raise our own awareness. This is easier said than done, but worth attempting with calmness. When we succeed, our sense of difficulty diminishes, and the experience becomes a resource for handling other challenging relationships.

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